Asian parents and interracial dating
They hated him because he is black At the end of August, my husband and I will celebrate 12 years of marriage, but the years leading up to the so-called happiest day of my life were the most challenging years I’ve ever been through.
Here’s the thing: I never ever planned marry a black man.
It’s not always about finding love so much as it is about finding a potential marriage partner who fits with one’s own ideals.
For example, although many men get married without a house and a car, Chinese women will often say that they’re looking for these things because that’s the sort of person who probably has a stable career and will be able to provide for her and their future children in the long-term. As one contestant on China’s most popular dating show put it, "I’d rather cry in a BMW than laugh on a bicycle." Every parent is different, of course, but in general Chinese parents expect to be more involved in their children’s relationships.
My family was the only Asian-American family in our small, rural town in the south.
When I was finally allowed to date, I knew I was only allowed to date white boys.
Some from India, Liberia, Nigeria, Puerto Rico, Dominican Republic, Panama, Mexico and even Brazil.For a lot of Chinese people, serious dating starts after they’ve finished school.More so than Westerners, many Chinese view dating as a pragmatic affair.No matter how nice white parents are and how kind they are to all people, they are often deemed racist if they have a preference for their children to marry people who look like them and relate to their ways or cultural behaviors .The same can be said for African Americans if they too take the stance they’d rather have their children with people who looked like them and understand the challenges of their past and present families.