Advice for dating a jewish man
23, 2009, on the shores of Lake Winnipesaukee in New Hampshire. *** Soon after my bar mitzvah, just as I was discovering my interest in the opposite sex, I began to be bombarded with information about intermarriage—about how one in every two Jewish people would marry a non-Jew and how more than half of the children of those unions would not be raised Jewish.
But as I fell in love with her, she fell in love with me—and with my Judaism as well.
The rules of traditional Jewish that define who is a Jew are still the same. If you want to guess, it probably relates to the fact that you can more easily and definitively prove the connection between a child and its mother than between a child and its father. So you need to be born of a Jewish mother to be considered Jewish.I watch as all of my other Jewish friends seem to marry a Goldstein or a Rosenberg and while I am truly happy for them I do feel pangs of guilt and jealousy. I know that he would marry me tomorrow if he could but he also knows I am holding back because of this, because I can’t commit to a non-Jewish man. You admit to feeling jealous of other Jewish girls marrying Jewish men.Those feelings are unlikely to go away, no matter how hard you tell yourself they will. We have reached a happy median in our married life where neither cultural background is given greater importance than the other.I have been dating a great, fantastic atheist man for the past one and a half years and while he is completely committed to raising any future children in a Jewish setting, loves my Noodle Kugel, and is open to going to Temple for Shabbat; I still feel this cloud of guilt hanging around me for not dating a Jewish man.My parents adore him and have no problems with him not being Jewish but for some reason I can’t shake it.